As humans, we have been given the gift of sophisticated speech. It is our job to share this gift and to share it wisely. When we share it wisely, we create connection, joy, and relevancy. Imagine what the world would be like if we took some extra care in how and when we speak to others and how and when we speak to ourselves.
To speak sweetly simply means to speak in a nice way that is also true in that moment. This is the most effective way for evolution and growth to occur. It allows us to commune with the “other” through humor, playfulness, and confidence. On the other end of the spectrum, when we lie, gossip, use sarcasm, and/or exaggerate, we are adding tension to the atmosphere causing confusion and separation.
It is obvious why we should not lie or gossip as they are direct ways of hurting others but it is not so obvious why we should not use sarcasm or exaggeration. Sarcasm confuses others because it states the opposite of what you intend. For example; if something bad happens and you say “great” or if you say something then say “just kidding” or “not.” The worst form of sarcasm happens when the “other” does not know if you are ridiculing or complimenting them. It is best to only state what you actually mean.
Exaggeration and overused words lose meaning. We should be careful how we use words and phrases such as: “a ton,” “love,” “hate,” “wow,” “awesome,” “cool,” “amazing,” etc. Also filler words such as “um,” “ah,” “yeah,” “so,” can lead to confusion. We do not want the “other” to wonder what we mean. It is too much work to assimilate. When we care for our speech others know what we stand for and that we can be trusted.
By communicating we are demonstrating and verbalizing our intent. If we have fundamental integrity in taking care of information flow, we create union. Union is shared experience and the reason why we are on this planet. Speaking the sweet truth creates union, joy, and relevancy. Have fun with speech and use it wisely!
